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Shedding our former selves
“Be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop.”
- Rumi
We are all a collection of our past thoughts, actions and experiences. We are shaped by our past, but we do not have to allow the past to define who we are or what we are capable of in the future. We are not the same person we were ten or five years ago. Most of us may claim that we are not even the same person we were a year ago. Life grants us the opportunity to learn and grow from our experiences. As long as we do not cling too much to our past, we can focus more on improving our own wellbeing and create even better lives for ourselves moving forward.
I have been making an effort to not allow my past define who I am today. Even though we are a collection of our past thoughts, actions and experiences, I have been more aware of letting go of the patterns and habits that no longer serve me. I experienced a lot of emotional and physical trauma growing up. I would use this as a reason to lash out at others or be disrespectful. I also would retaliate against others if I felt they wronged me in some way. As I grew up, I realized my actions were not helping me. In fact, they only made me feel worse in the long term and soured my relationships with others.
As I started doing more deep reflection through meditation and talk therapy, I learned how to respond better to my…
